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1. ȸº¹ 12´Ü°è ¿ø¸®ÀÇ °¡¸£Ä§ (What the 12 Steps teach us)


¹Ì±¹ ¾ËÄÚ¿Ãȸº¹¸ðÀÓ¿¡¼­ ½ÃÀÛµÈ È¸º¹ 12´Ü°è´Â ¿À´Ã³¯ ¸ðµç Á¾·ùÀÇ Áßµ¶¿¡ óÇÑ »ç¶÷µé°ú Áßµ¶ÀÚ¸¦ »ç¶ûÇÏ´Â °¡Á·µéÀº ¹°·Ð Ä£±¸µéµµ Àû¿ëÇÏ°í À־, ÀÌÁ¦ 12´Ü°è ȸº¹ ÀÌ·ÐÀº ´õ ÀÌ»ó ´ÜÁö ¾ËÄÚ¿Ã Áßµ¶ÀÚµéÀ» À§ÇÑ °Í¸¸ÀÌ ¾Æ´Ï¸ç, ¾ËÄÚ¿Ã °¡Á·È¸º¹ÀÓ, ¸¶¾à, µµ¹Ú, À½½ÄÁßµ¶, ¼ºÁßµ¶ÀÚ È¸º¹¸ðÀÓ µîµî ¸ðµç ´Ù¸¥ ȸº¹ÇÁ·Î±×·¥ÀÇ ±âº»ÀÌ µÇ°í ÀÖ´Ù.

(These 12 Steps are now used by people with all kinds of addictions and also by family members and friends who love them. No longer just for alcoholics, the Steps are the basic for many other recovery programs, such as Al-Anon, NA, GA, OA, SA, and so on.)

ȸº¹ 12´Ü°è´Â ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ Áßµ¶¹®Á¦¿¡¼­ ¹þ¾î³ª°í ȸº¹»óŸ¦ °è¼Ó À¯ÁöÇϵµ·Ï µðÀÚÀÎ µÇ¾î ÀÖÀ¸¸ç, ¶ÇÇÑ 12´Ü°è´Â ¡°¿ì¸®µéÀÌ ¼öÄ¡½É, ±Ù½É °ÅÁ¤, °ÅÁþÀÚ¸¸½É, °íÁýºÒÅë, µÎ·Á¿ò µî¿¡¼­ ÀÚÀ¯½º·¯¿ö Áú ¼ö¡± ÀÖµµ·Ï °í¾ÈµÇ¾î ÀÖ´Ù.

(The 12 Steps are designed to get and keep us sober. They are also designed to "free us of our shame, worry, false pride, stubbornness, and fears.)


Áø½Ç¿¡µµ ±ÔÄ¢µéÀÌ ÇÊ¿äÇÏ´Ù
(Truths require rules)

12´Ü°è ÀÌÇàÀº "ȸº¹À» À§ÇÑ Á¦¾È" »çÇ×ÀÌ´Ù. ¿ø·¡ ¾ËÄڿðú ´Ù¸¥ ¸ðµç Áßµ¶ÀÚµéÀº Á¦¾È»çÇ×µéÀ» Àß ÀÌÇàÇÏÁö ¾Ê´Â´Ù. ±×·¸Áö¸¸ ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ È¸º¹µÇ±â¸¦ ¹Ù¶õ´Ù¸é ¿ì¸®µéÀº µµ¿òÀÌ ÇÊ¿äÇÑ »ç¶÷µéÀÌ´Ù. ¼ÖÁ÷È÷ ¿ì¸®µéÀº ¾î¶»°Ô Áßµ¶¹°Ã¼³ª Áßµ¶ÇàÀ§ ¾øÀÌ »ì¾Æ°¥Áö¸¦ ¸ð¸¥´Ù. ¿ì¸®µéÀº ±×°£ÀÇ Áßµ¶ »îÀ» ÅëÇؼ­ Çѹø ±âºÐ ÁÁÀº °¨Á¤À» ´À³¢°í ³­ ´ÙÀ½¿¡´Â ¶Ç ´Ù¸¥ °íÁ¶°¨Á¤¸¸À» Ãß±¸Çϸ鼭 ¸¶Ä¡ ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ »óȲÀ» Àß ÅëÁ¦ÇÏ°í ÀÖ´Â °Íó·³ Âø°¢À» ÇØ¿Ô´Ù. ȸº¹ 12 ´Ü°è´Â ÀÌ·± ¿ì¸®µé¿¡°Ô »õ·Î¿î »îÀÇ ¹æ¹ýÀ» Á¦°øÇØÁ־, ¡°¾î¶»°Ô ÇൿÇØ¾ß ÇÑ´Ù´Â ±âº» ±ÔÄ¢ÀÌ¡± µÇ¾îÁÖ°í ÀÖ´Ù.

(The 12 Steps are "suggested." We alcohol and all other addicts don't take suggestions very well. But we want to become sober, we will need help. We truly don't know how to live sober. We've bounced through life going from one high to another, acting like we were in control. The 12 Steps offer us a new way of life. They give us "some basic rules for how to act.")

¾Æ¸¶ ¿ì¸®µé ´ëºÎºÐÀº ¾î¶»°Ô ÇൿÇØ¾ß ÇÑ´Ù´Â ±ÔÄ¢ µûÀ§µéÀº ÇÊ¿ä°¡ ¾ø´Ù´Â ¸»µéÀ» ÇÒ °ÍÀÌ´Ù. ±×·¸°Ô ¸»ÇÏ´Â ÀÌÀ¯´Â ±×°£ ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ ÇÏ°í ½ÍÀº ¹æ¹ý´ë·Î¸¸ ÇൿÀ» Çؼ­, ¾î´À ´©±¸ÀÇ »ç·Á ±íÀº Ãæ°íµµ ¹«½ÃÇØ ¿Ô±â ¶§¹®ÀÌ´Ù. »ç½Ç´ë·Î À̾߱⸦ Çؼ­ ±×°£ Áßµ¶»ýÈ° ±â°£¿¡¼­µµ ¿ì¸®µé¿¡°Ô´Â Çൿ±Ô¹üµéÀº ¾ö¿¬È÷ ÀÖ¾úÁö¸¸, ±× ±ÔÄ¢µéÀº ¸ðµÎ ¡°Áßµ¶ÀÚ°¡ Áßµ¶ÇàÀ§¸¦ ´õ Ãß±¸Çϱâ À§ÇÑ ±ÔÄ¢µé¡± À̾úÀ» »ÓÀÌ´Ù.

(Many of us thought we didn't need rules about how to act. We would act the way we wanted. We didn't care what anyone thought. The truth is that even in our addiction, we had rules for how to act, but they were "addict's rules.")

¿øÄ¢µéÀÌ ½Å³äÀ¸·Î µÈ´Ù
(Principles become beliefs)

¿øÄ¢Àº °ð ½Å³äÀÌ´Ù. ÀÌ·¸°Ô ȸº¹°úÁ¤¿¡¼­ 12´Ü°è ¿ø¸®µéÀº ¿ì¸®µé¿¡°Ô ½Å³äÀÌ µÇ¾î ÁÙ °ÍÀ̾, ȸº¹ 12´Ü°è ¿ø¸®µéÀº ´ÙÀ½°ú °°ÀÌ ¿ì¸® »îÀÇ ¹æ¹ýÀÌ µÈ´Ù.
(Principles are also beliefs. In recovery, the 12 Steps will become beliefs for us. In this way the 12 Steps become a way of life.)

  • ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ »îÀ» ¾ó¸¶³ª Á¤»óÀûÀ¸·Î »ìÁö ¸øÇß´ÂÁö¸¦ ¾Ë°Ô µÉ °ÍÀÌ´Ù
    (We will come to see how our lives were unmanageable)

  • ¿ì¸®µéÀº ¾ËÄÚ¿Ã, ¸¶¾à, °ÔÀÓ, ¼½½º, ¶Ç´Â µµ¹Ú¿¡ ¹«±â·ÂÇÔÀ» ±ú´Ý°Ô µÉ °ÍÀÌ´Ù
    (We will come to believe we are powerless over alcohol, drugs, games, sex, or gamble)

  • ¿ì¸®µé¿¡°Ô À߸øÀÌ ÀÖ¾úÀ» ¶§¿¡´Â ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ ´Ù¸¥ »ç¶÷µé¿¡°Ô ÀÎÁ¤ÇÏ´Â °ÍÀÌ ÃÖ¼±À̶ó´Â °ÍÀ» ¹Ï°Ô µÉ °ÍÀÌ´Ù
    (We will come to believe that it is best for us to admit to others when we were wrong)

  • ¿ì¸®µéÀº ´Ù¸¥ ȸº¹µ¿·áµéÀ» À§ÇØ ºÀ»çÇÏ°í µ½´Â ÀÏÀÌ È¸º¹¿¡ ¾ó¸¶³ª Áß¿äÇÑ Áö¸¦ ÀÌÇØÇÏ°Ô µÉ °ÍÀÌ´Ù
    (We will come to believe serving and helping others is important)

ÀÌ»óÀº 12´Ü°è ¿ø¸® ¾È¿¡ ³»Æ÷µÈ ¸î °¡Áö ¿¹¿¡ ºÒ°úÇؼ­, ½Ç·Î ȸº¹ 12´Ü°è¿¡´Â ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ Áßµ¶ÇàÀ§¸¦ ÇÏÁö ¾Ê°í ¿µÀûÀ¸·Î °¢¼ºµÈ ¿ÂÁ¤½ÅÀÇ »îÀ» »ì¾Æ°¡´Âµ¥ ÇÊ¿äÇÑ ¸ðµç ½Å³ä°ú ¾ÆÀ̵ð¾îµéÀÌ ÀÖ´Ù.
(These are just a few examples of the beliefs the 12 Steps hold within them. The 12 Steps hold all the beliefs and ideas we need to stay sober and to live spiritual sane lives.)

¿ì¸® »îÀ» Á¤µ· ÇսôÙ!
(Giving our lives order)

¶ÇÇÑ ¿ì¸®µéÀº 12´Ü°è ȸº¹À» ÅëÇؼ­ »îÀ» Á¤µ·ÇÒ ¼ö ÀÖ´Â ¹æ¹ýÀ» ¹ß°ßÇÏ°Ô µÈ´Ù.
(Through the 12 Steps we also find a way to put order into our lives.)
  • ¿ì¸®µéÀº ¸¶À½, À°Ã¼, Á¤¼­°¨Á¤, ¿µ¼º¿¡ Âü¿©½Ãų ¼ö ÀÖ´Â ¹æ¹ýÀ» ¹ß°ßÇÏ°Ô µÈ´Ù
    (We find a way to join our mind, bodies, emotions, and spirits)

  • ±×°£ Áßµ¶º´ÀÌ ¿ì¸®µéÀ» ¾û¸ÁÁøâÀ¸·Î ¸¸µé¾ú±â ¶§¹®¿¡ ÀÌÁ¦ ¿ì¸®µéÀº ȸº¹ 12´Ü°è µµ¿òÀÌ ÇÊ¿äÇÑ °ÍÀÌ´Ù
    (We need this type of help because our illness taught us to be messy)

Áßµ¶ÀÌ ¿ì¸®ÀÚ½Å, °¡Á·°ú Ä£±¸µé, ±×¸®°í À§´ëÇÑ ÈûÀ¸·ÎºÎÅÍ ¿ì¸®µéÀ» ¶¼¾î ³õ¾Æ ¹ö·Á¼­, ¿ì¸®µéÀº ±æÀ» ÀÒ¾ú´Ù. 12´Ü°è ȸº¹Àº ÀÒ¾ú´ø ¿ì¸® ÀÚ½Å, °¡Á·°ú Ä£±¸µé, ±×¸®°í À§´ëÇÑ ÈûÀ¸·Î ¿ì¸®µéÀ» º¹±Í½ÃÄÑ ÁØ´Ù. ȸº¹´Ü°è¸¦ ÀÌÇàÇÒ¼ö·Ï 12´Ü°è´Â ¿ì¸®µéÀÇ »îÀ» ´Ù½Ã Á¤¸®Á¤µ· ½ÃÄÑ ÁÙ °ÍÀÌ´Ù.

(Addiction separates us from ourselves, our family and friends, and our Higher Power. We become lost. The 12 Steps bring us back to ourselves, our family and friends, and our Higher Power. They do this by putting order back into our lives.)

ȸº¹ 12´Ü°è ¿ø¸® µ¥·Î »ì¾Æ°¡±â À§Çؼ­´Â ¾î´À Á¤µµÀÇ È¸º¹ÀÛ¾÷Àº ÇÊ¿äÇϸç, ¹Ù·Î ±×·± °ÍÀÌ È¸º¹Ä¡À¯ÀÇ ÇÑ ºÎºÐÀÌ´Ù. °ú°Å¿¡´Â ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ ¹«½¼ ÀÏÀ» ÇÏ°í ½Í°Å³ª Áßµ¶ÇàÀ§¸¦ ÇÏ°í ½ÍÀ» ¶§¿¡´Â ¸¶±¸ÇÏ¿©, ÁÖÀ§ »ç¶÷µéÀÌ ¾î¶² °íÅëÀ» ´çÇÏµç »ó°üÇÏÁö ¾Ê¾Æ¼­ °á±¹ ¿ì¸®µéÀº
"ÀÚ±âÁß½ÉÀûÀÎ(Self-centered)" »ç¶÷ÀÌ µÇ¾úÀ» °ÍÀÌ´Ù. ÇÏÁö¸¸ 12´Ü°è´Â ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ ¡°³ª ÀڽŰú ´Ù¸¥ »ç¶÷ Áß½É(Self- and other-centered)"ÀÌ µÇµµ·Ï µµ¿Í ÁÙ °ÍÀÌ´Ù.

(It take a certain amount of work to live by the 12 Steps. This is part of healing. In the past, we may have done whatever we wanted, whenever we wanted, not caring who suffered. We were self-centered. The 12 Steps will help us become "self- and other-centered")

±×·¡¼­ 12´Ü°è´Â ¡°¿ì¸®µéÀÌ ÇൿÀ» Çϱâ Àü¿¡ ´Ù½Ã ÇÑ ¹ø ´õ »ý°¢Çغ¸´Â ½À¼º¡±À» °¡¸£ÃÄ ÁÙ °ÍÀ̾, ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ ÇÏ·Á´Â ÇൿµéÀÌ ÁÖÀ§ »ç¶÷¿¡°Ô »óó¸¦ ÁÙ °Í °°À» ¶§¿¡´Â ¾Æ¹«¸® ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ ±× ÀÏÀ» ÇÏ°í ½Í¾îµµ Àü°ú °°ÀÌ ÇൿÀ» ÇÏÁö ¾Ê°Ô µÉ °ÍÀÌ´Ù.

(They will teach us "to think about our actions before we act." If actions might harm someone else, then we will not act that way no matter how much we want to.)

ÀÌÁ¦ºÎÅʹ åÀÓÀ» ÁöÀÚ!
(Take responsibility)

±×°£ ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ ÇØ¿Â ¾à¹°À̳ª Áßµ¶ÇàÀ§ ÀÇÁ¸Àº ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ ÇÑ Çൿ¿¡ Ã¥ÀÓÀ» ÁöÁö ¸øÇϵµ·Ï °¡¸£ÃÆ´Ù. ÇÏÁö¸¸ ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ 12´Ü°è ȸº¹ÀÛ¾÷À» Çϸ鼭´Â ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ ÇàÇÑ Çൿ¿¡ Á¤Á÷ÇØÁö°Ô µÈ´Ù. ½Ç·Î ¿ì¸®µéÀº °ú°Å¿¡ ¿ì¸® ½º½º·Î°¡ ÇൿÇßÀ¸¸é¼­µµ ÀÏÀÌ À߸øµÇ¸é ÁÖÀ§ »ç¶÷µéÀ̳ª ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ ±×·¸°Ô ÇൿÇÏ°Ô ÇÑ ±× ¹«¾ù¿¡ ´ëÇؼ­¸¸ ºñ³­À» Çß´Ù. ±×·¯³ª ȸº¹ 12´Ü°è´Â ¿ì¸® ÀÚ½Å, ´Ù¸¥ »ç¶÷µé, ±×¸®°í À§´ëÇÑ Èû²² Á¤Á÷Çϵµ·Ï °¡¸£ÃÄ ÁØ´Ù.

(Our chemical or addictive behaviors dependence taught us not to take responsibility for our action. When we're working the Steps, we are honest about our actions. If something went wrong in the past, we would blame someone or something for the way we acted. The 12 Steps teach us to be honest with ourselves, with others, and with our Higher Power.)

´Ù½Ã ¸»Çؼ­ ȸº¹ 12´Ü°è´Â ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ ±×°£ Áßµ¶¹®Á¦·Î ÀÒ¾î¹ö·È´ø »çÇ×µé·Î ´Ù½Ã µÇµ¹¾Æ°¥ ¼ö ÀÖµµ·Ï °¡¸£ÃÄ Á־, 12´Ü°è ȸº¹À» Çϸé ÇÒ¼ö·Ï À§´ëÇÑ ÈûÀº ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ ÀÒ¾î¹ö¸° °ÍµéÀº ¹°·Ð ´õ ¸¹Àº °Íµé·Î °¡µæ ä¿ö ÁÖ½Ç °ÍÀÌ´Ù. ÀÌ·¸°Ô ¿ì¸®Àڽſ¡ ´ëÇؼ­ Ã¥ÀÓÀ» Áú ¶§¿¡ ºñ·Î¼Ò ¿ì¸®µéÀº ¡°Áßµ¶¿¡ Èֹ߼º¿ªÇÒ¸¸ ÇØ¿Ô´ø °ÅºÎ¹ÝÀÀ¡±À» Áß´Ü ÇÒ ¼ö ÀÖ´Ù. 12´Ü°è ȸº¹ÀÛ¾÷À» ÅëÇؼ­ ¿ì¸®°¡ ÇàÇÏ´Â Çൿ¿¡ Ã¥ÀÓÀ» Áö°Ô µÇ¸é °³ÀÎÀûÀÎ ´É·Âµµ ´õ »ý±â°Ô ¸¶·ÃÀÌ´Ù.

(The 12 Steps teach us how to get back what we've lost to our addiction. In fact over time we can get back all we've lost and even more. By taking responsibility for ourselves, we stop "the denial process that was the fuel for our addiction." Through the 12 Steps, we learn that by taking responsibility for our actions, we gain personal power.)

¿ì¸®µéÀº Áßµ¶ ´ç½Ã¿¡´Â ¿ì¸®ÀÚ½ÅÀÌ ¹®Á¦¸¦ ¸¸µé¾î ³õ°íµµ ÀÏÀÌ À߸ø µÈ °ÍÀ» ´Ù¸¥ »ç¶÷µéÀÇ Å¿À¸·Î¸¸ ºñ³­ÇÏ´Â µ¥´Â ¸í¼öÀ̾ú´Ù. 12´Ü°è´Â ±×·¨´ø ¿ì¸®µé¿¡°Ô ¿ì¸® ÀÚ½ÅÀ» µ¹¾Æº¸¸é¼­ ±×°£ ¾ó¸¶³ª ¸¹Àº ¹®Á¦µéÀ» ¸¸µé¾ú´ÂÁö¸¦ µÇµ¹¾Æº¸°Ô ÇÑ´Ù. ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ ÇàÇÑ Çൿ¿¡ Ã¥ÀÓÀ» Áö°Ô µÇ¸é¼­ºÎÅÍ´Â ¿ì¸®ÀÚ½ÅÀ» ÇÑÃþ ´õ ÁÁ¾Æ ÇÒ ¼ö ÀÖ°Ô µÇ¾î, µµ¿òÀ» ÁÙ ¼ö ÀÖ´Â »õ·Î¿î »ç¶÷µé°ú Á¢Ã˵µ °¡´ÉÇØÁ®¼­, ¿ì¸®µéÀº ¹®Á¦ ÇØ°á ´äº¯À» Àü¿¡ Çß´ø ¾à¹°À̳ª Áßµ¶ÇàÀ§ ´ë½Å¿¡ ¿ì¸®Àڽſ¡°Ô¼­ºÎÅÍ »ìÆ캸°Ô µÈ´Ù. ÀÌ ¾ó¸¶³ª ȯ¿µÇÒ ¸¸ÇÑ À§¾ÈÀÌ°í ȸº¹Àΰ¡!

(We were experts at blaming others for our problems. The 12 Steps teach us to look at ourselves and see how we created many of our problems. As we take responsibility for our actions, we like ourselves better. In time, we begin to reach out to the world around us. We look to ourselves for answers instead of looking chemical substances or addictive behaviors for answers. What a welcome relief and recovery!)

ÀÚÁ¸½ÉÀ» ÇнÀÇսôÙ!!
(Learning self-respect)

12 ´Ü°è´Â ¿ì¸® ½º½º·Î¸¦ µ¹º¸µµ·Ï °¡¸£ÃÄ Á־, ´ÙÀ½°ú °°ÀÌ ¡°¿ì¸®µéÀº ´©±¸ ÀÌ°í, ¾î¶»°Ô ÇൿÇÏ°í ÀÖ´ÂÁö¡±¸¦ ¾Ë°í ÀÌÇØÇÏ°Ô ÇØ ÁØ´Ù.
(The 12 Steps teach us about ourselves. We learn and understand "who we are and how we act.")
  • ȸº¹ 12´Ü°èµéÀº ¿ì¸®µéÀÇ ½ÇÁ¦ ÀÚ½ÅÀ» ´Ù¸¥ »ç¶÷µé°ú À§´ëÇÑ Èû²² ¾î¶»°Ô ³ª´­ ¼ö ÀÖ´ÂÁö¸¦ °¡¸£ÃÄ Á־, ¿ì¸®µéÀº ¿µÀûÀÎ »ç¶÷µéÀÓÀ» ÀνÄÇÏ°í ¾î¶»°Ô ¿µÀûÀ¸·Î ´õ ¼ºÀåÇÒ ¼ö ÀÖ´Â Áö¸¦ ÇнÀÇÏ°Ô µÈ´Ù
    (The Steps teach us how to share our real selves with others and our Higher Power. We realize we are spiritual people, and we learn how to grow spiritually)

  • ȸº¹ 12´Ü°è´Â ´Ù½Ã ¿ì¸®µéÀ» ¿ì¸®ÀڽŰú ÁÖÀ§ »ç¶÷µéÀ» µ¹º¸µµ·Ï ÇнÀ½ÃÄÑ ÁÖ´Â ¹æ¹ýÀ¸·Î, ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ »îÀ» º¸´Ù ½±°Ô ¸¸µé¾î °¡´Âµ¥ ÇÊ¿äÇÑ »çÇ×µéÀ» ¾Ë·ÁÁÖ´Â ¸íÈ®ÇÑ È¸º¹³»¿ëÀÌ´Ù. ¿ì¸®µéÀº 12´Ü°è ȸº¹ÀÛ¾÷À» ÀÌÇàÇϰųª ÇÏÁö ¾ÊÀ» ¼±Åõµ ÇÒ ¼ö ÀÖ´Ù. ±×·¯³ª 12´Ü°è¸¸ÀÌ ¿ì¸®µé¿¡°Ô ÀÚÁ¸½ÉÀ» µÇã¾Æ ÁÙ ¼ö ÀÖ´Â ¹æ¹ýÀÓÀ» ¾Ë¾Æ¾ß¸¸ ÇÑ´Ù
    (The 12 Steps are a way for us to learn to care for ourselves and others again. The Steps are clear statements telling us what we need to do to make our lives easier. We choose to work them or not. They are a way for us to get self-respect back)

  • 12´Ü°è¸¦ ÀÌÇàÇϸ鼭ºÎÅÍ ¿ì¸®µéÀº ¡°ÀÛÀº ½Â¸®µé·Î À̾îÁö´Â »î(A series of small wins)¡±À¸·Î À̾îÁ®¼­, Àھư¨ÀÌ º¹¿øµÇ¾î¼­ ¼¼»ó »î¿¡ ´ú °ÌÀÌ ³ª°Ô µÈ´Ù
    (In working the Steps, life becomes ¡°a series of small wins¡± for us. Thus, self-confidence returns and the world becomes less scary to us)

ÀÌ·¸°Ô ¿ì¸®µéÀº Ç×±¸ÀûÀÎ ¹æ¹ýÀ¸·Î ¿ì¸®ÀÚ½ÅÀ» µ¹º¸°í »ç¶ûÇÏ´Â ¹ýÀ» ½ÀµæÇÏ°Ô µÇ¾î, ¿ì¸®µéÀº ÈǸ¢ÇÑ »ç¶÷À̶ó´Â °ÍÀ» ´À³¢°í ¹Ï°Ô µÈ´Ù. ±×·¡¼­ ȸº¹ 12´Ü°è´Â ¾ÆÁÖ °£´ÜÇÑ ³»¿ëÀÌÁö¸¸ »ç¶û, Áï ÁøÁ¤ÇÑ ¿ì¸® ÀÚ½ÅÀ» »ç¶ûÇϴ ȸº¹¹æ¹ýÀÌ´Ù.

(We learn how to care for and love ourselves in a lasting way. We are good people - we feel and believe this. So, in a very simple way, the 12 Steps are about love - true self-love.)


¡°¸ÕÀú ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ ¿ì¸® ÀÚ½ÅÀ» »ç¶ûÇÒ ¼ö ÀÖ¾î¾ß¸¸ ÁÖÀ§ »ç¶÷µéµµ »ç¶ûÇÒ ¼ö ÀÖ´Ù!¡± ȸº¹ 12´Ü°è¾ß ¸»·Î ´Ù½Ã ¿ì¸®ÀÚ½ÅÀ» »ç¶ûÇÒ ¼ö ÀÖ´Â ±âȸ¸¦ Á¦°øÇØ ÁØ´Ù!

("We can't love others in a lasting way until we learn to love ourselves!" The 12 Steps give us the chance to love ourselves again!)

2. ȸº¹ 12´Ü°è ³»¿ë (12 Steps Content)


1 ´Ü°è
¿ì¸®´Â Áßµ¶ - ¾ËÄÚ¿Ã, ¸¶¾à, µµ¹Ú, ¼½½º, °ÔÀÓ, ¶Ç´Â ÀÇÁ¸Áõ - ¿¡ ¹«±â·Â ÇßÀ¸¸ç ¿ì¸® »ýÈ°À» Á¤»óÀûÀ¸·Î ÇÒ ¼ö ¾ø°Ô µÇ¾úÀ½À» ±ú´Ý°í ½ÃÀÎ ÇÕ´Ï´Ù
(We admitted we were powerless over addiction - alcohol, drugs, gamble, sex, game, or codependency - that our lives had become unmanageable)
2 ´Ü°è
¿ì¸®´Â ¿ì¸®º¸´Ù ´õ À§´ëÇÑ ÈûÀÌ ¿ì¸®ÀÇ »ý°¢°ú »ýÈ°À» Á¤»óÀûÀ¸·Î µ¹¾Æ¿À°Ô ÇØ ÁÖ½Ç ¼ö ÀÖ´Ù°í ¹Ï½À´Ï´Ù
(Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity)
3 ´Ü°è
¿ì¸®´Â ¿ì¸®°¡ ÀÌÇØÇÏ´Â Çϳª´ÔÀÇ º¸»ìÇË¿¡ ¿ì¸® ÀÚ½ÅÀÇ ÀÇÁö¿Í »îÀ» ¿ÏÀüÈ÷ ¸Ã±â±â·Î °á½ÉÇÕ´Ï´Ù
(We made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of the God as we understood Him)
4 ´Ü°è
¿ì¸®´Â µÎ·Á¿ò ¾øÀÌ ¿ì¸® ÀÚ½ÅÀÇ µµ´öÀû »çÇ×À» È®ÀÎÇÕ´Ï´Ù
(Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves)
5 ´Ü°è
¿ì¸®ÀÇ À߸øµÈ »ç½ÇÀ» Çϳª´Ô, ¿ì¸® ÀÚ½Å, ±×¸®°í ´Ù¸¥ »ç¶÷¿¡°Ô ½ÃÀÎ ÇÕ´Ï´Ù
(Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being, the exact nature of our wrong)
6 ´Ü°è
¿ì¸®´Â Çϳª´ÔÀÌ ¸ðµç ¼º°Ý»ó ¾àÁ¡À» ¾ø¾Ö ÁÖ½Ç ¸ðµç Áغñ°¡ µÇ¾ú½À´Ï´Ù
(Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character)
7 ´Ü°è
¿ì¸®´Â °âÇãÇÏ°Ô Çϳª´ÔÀÌ ¿ì¸®ÀÇ ºÎÁ·ÇÑ Á¡µéÀ» ¾ø¾ÖÁֽõµ·Ï °£Ã» ÇÕ´Ï´Ù
(Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings)
8 ´Ü°è
¿ì¸®°¡ ÇÇÇظ¦ ÁØ ¸ðµç »ç¶÷µéÀÇ ¸í´ÜÀ» ÀÛ¼ºÇÏ¿© ±×µé ¸ðµÎ¿¡°Ô ±â²¨ÀÌ º¸»óÇϵµ·Ï ÇÑ´Ù
(Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all)
9 ´Ü°è
¿ì¸®°¡ Á÷Á¢ º¸»óÇÏ´Â °ÍÀÌ ±×µé¿¡°Ô »óó¸¦ ÁÙ °æ¿ì¸¦ Á¦¿ÜÇÏ°í´Â °¡´ÉÇÑ ¾îµð¿¡¼­³ª Á÷Á¢ º¸»ó ÇÕ´Ï´Ù.
(Made direct amends to such people whenever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others)
10´Ü°è
¿ì¸®´Â °è¼Ó ÀÚ½ÅÀ» Á¡°ËÇØ ³ª°¡¸ç À߸øÀÌ ÀÖ¾úÀ» ¶§´Â Áï½Ã ½ÃÀÎ ÇÕ´Ï´Ù
(Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it)
11´Ü°è
±âµµ¿Í ¸í»óÀ» ÅëÇÏ¿© ÀǽÄÀûÀ¸·Î ¿ì¸®°¡ ¾Æ´Â Çϳª´Ô°ú ´õ¿í °¡±î¿öÁöµµ·Ï Èû¾²¸ç, Çϳª´ÔÀÇ ¶æÀ» ±ú´ÞÀ» ¼ö ÀÖ°í Çϳª´ÔÀÇ ¶æÀ» ½ÇÇàÇÒ ´É·ÂÀ» ±¸ÇÏ´Â ±âµµ¸¦ ÇÕ´Ï´Ù
(Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out)
12´Ü°è
ȸº¹ ´Ü°èµéÀÇ °á°ú·Î ¿µÀû°¢¼ºÀ» ±ú´Þ¾ÒÀ¸¹Ç·Î, ´Ù¸¥ Áßµ¶ÀÚ¿Í ±×µé °¡Á·µé¿¡°Ô ÀÌ È¸º¹ ¿øÄ¢À» ÀüÇϵµ·Ï ³ë·ÂÇϸç, ¿ì¸® »îÀÇ ¸ðµç ¿µ¿ª¿¡¼­ ÀÌ ¸ðµç ¿øÄ¢À» ½ÇõÇϵµ·Ï ³ë·ÂÇÕ´Ï´Ù
(Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to other addicts and their families, and to practice these principles in all our affairs)

3. ȸº¹ 1 ´Ü°è ÇнÀ (Step One)


¿ì¸®´Â Áßµ¶ - ¾ËÄÚ¿Ã, ¸¶¾à, µµ¹Ú, ¼½½º, °ÔÀÓ, ¶Ç´Â ÀÇÁ¸Áõ - ¿¡ ¹«±â·Â ÇßÀ¸¸ç ¿ì¸® »ýÈ°À» Á¤»óÀûÀ¸·Î ÇÒ ¼ö ¾ø°Ô µÇ¾úÀ½À» ±ú´Ý°í ½ÃÀÎ ÇÕ´Ï´Ù
(We admitted we were powerless over addiction - alcohol, drugs, gamble, sex, game, or codependency - that our lives had become unmanageable)

ȸº¹ 1 ´Ü°è´Â ȸº¹ ½ÃÀÛ ´Ü°èÀÌ´Ù. ¸ðµç °Í¿¡¼­ óÀ½ÀÌ Áß¿äÇÑ °Í°ú °°ÀÌ È¸º¹ 1 ´Ü°è´Â ¾ÆÁÖ Áß¿äÇؼ­, ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ 1 ´Ü°è¸¦ È®½ÇÈ÷ ÇÏÁö ¾Ê°í´Â ´Ù¸¥ ÀÜ¿© ȸº¹´Ü°èµé¿¡¼­ ¾Æ¹«·± ȸº¹µµ¿òÀ» ¹ÞÀ» ¼ö ¾ø°Ô µÈ´Ù.

((The first Step is our beginning. Like all firsts, it is very important. We can't make any gains in the other Steps until we grab hold of the First Step.)

¿Ö ±×·²±î?
±× ÀÌÀ¯´Â ȸº¹ 1 ´Ü°è°¡ ¿ì¸®µéÀÇ ÀÇÁ¸ ¹× Áßµ¶¿¡ ´ëÇؼ­ Á÷Á¢ÀûÀ¸·Î À̾߱⸦ ÇÏ´Â À¯ÀÏÇÑ ´Ü°èÀ̱⠶§¹®ÀÌ´Ù.

(Why? Because the First Step is the only Step that speaks directly to our dependence and addiction.)

ȸº¹ 1 ´Ü°è¸¦ ÀÌÇàÇϸ鼭´Â ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ Áßµ¶ º´ÀÇ ÇٽɺκÐÀ» À̾߱â ÇÏ°Ô µÇ¾î, ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ ±×°£ ¾à¹°À̳ª ±âŸ Áßµ¶ÇàÀ§µé¿¡ ¹ÌÃÄ ³¯¶Ú °ü°è¼ºÀ» óÀ½À¸·Î »ìÆ캸°Ô µÈ´Ù. ±×·¡¼­ ȸº¹ 1 ´Ü°è´Â ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ Áßµ¶ÇàÀ§¸¦ ÇÏÁö ¾Ê°Ô ÇØÁÖ°í, ´Ù¸¥ ³ª¸ÓÁö 11´Ü°èµéÀº °è¼ÓÇؼ­ Áßµ¶ÇàÀ§¸¦ ÇÏÁö ¾ÊÀ» ¼ö ÀÖ´Â »îÀÇ ¹æ¹ýµéÀ» ¹ßÀü½ÃÄÑ Áִµ¥ µµ¿òÀ» ÁÖ°Ô µÉ °ÍÀÌ´Ù.

(In taking the First Step, we see and talk about the core part of our illness - the crazy relationship we had with chemical substance or other addictive behaviors. The First Step gets us sober. the other eleven Steps will help us develop a way of life that will keep us sober.)

Áßµ¶Àº À°Ã¼, ¸¶À½, Á¤¼­, ±×¸®°í ¿µÀûÀ¸·Î ¸ðµÎ ¸Á°¡Æ®¸®´Â º´À̹ǷÎ, ȸº¹ 1 ´Ü°è´Â ¾à¹°À̳ª Áßµ¶ÇàÀ§·Î ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ À°Ã¼ÀûÀ¸·Îµµ º´µé¾úÀ½À» »ó±âÇÏ°í ÀÎÁ¤Çϵµ·Ï ¸¸µå´Â À¯ÀÏÇÑ È¸º¹´Ü°è ÀÌ´Ù. ȸº¹ 1 ´Ü°è¿¡¼­ ¿ì¸®µéÀº ÀϽÃÀûÀ¸·Î ¾à¹°À» »ç¿ëÇϰųª Social gambler¿Í °°ÀÌ ÀÓÀ¸·Î Áß´ÜÇÏ°í ½ÍÀ» ¶§¿¡ Áß´ÜÇÒ ¼ö ÀÖ´Â ÀϹݻç¶÷µé°ú´Â ´Ù¸¥ Áßµ¶ÀÚÀÓÀ» ¾Ë°Ô µÈ´Ù.

(Ours is an illness of body, mind, emotion, and spirit. The First Step is only Step that asks us to remember and admit how our bodies got sick from using drugs, or doing addictive behaviors. It reminds us how we are different from social users.)

¿ì¸®µéÀº ³ú¿¡ °¨Á¤º¯È­¸¦ ¾ß±âÇÏ´Â Áßµ¶¹°Ã¼³ª Áßµ¶ÇàÀ§¸¦ ÇßÀ» ¶§¿¡´Â ¾ÆÁÖ ´Ù¸¥ ¹ÝÀÀÀ» º¸¿© ¿Ô´Ù. À°Ã¼ÀûÀ¸·Îµµ ÅëÁ¦·ÂÀ» »ó½ÇÇßÀ¸¸ç, Çã¿ëÇѵµÀÇ Áõ°¡, ±â¾ï·Â »ó½Ç, Áßµ¶¿¡ ´ëÇÑ °¥¸Á½É¸®, Áßµ¶ÇàÀ§¿¡¸¸ ÁýÂøÇÏ´Â °Í µîÀÌ ±× Áõ»óµé ÀÌ´Ù.

(We react differently when we are take mood-changing chemicals or behaviors. Our bodies become out of control. Signs of this are our increased tolerance, blackouts, cravings, and hangovers.)

Áßµ¶ÇàÀ§¸¦ ÇÏÁö ¾ÊÀº ¸¼Àº Á¤½ÅÀº Á¤Á÷ÇÔÀ» ÀǹÌÇÑ´Ù. ȸº¹ 1 ´Ü°è¸¦ ÀÌÇàÇϸ鼭´Â ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ À§¾ÈµÈ °¨°¢À» ´À³¢°Ô µÇ¾î¼­ ³­»ýóÀ½ Á¤Á÷ÇØÁ®¾ß ÇÏ´Â »óȲÀ» ´ë¸éÇÏ°Ô µÈ´Ù. ȸº¹ 1 ´Ü°è¿¡¼­ Á¤Á÷Àº ±×°£ ¿ì¸®µéÀÇ ÅëÁ¦·Â »ó½ÇÀ» ÀÎÁ¤Çϸ鼭ºÎÅÍ ÀÌ·ç¾îÁø´Ù. »ç½Ç ¿ì¸®µéÀº ¿À·§µ¿¾È ÅëÁ¦·ÂÀ» »ó½ÇµÇ¾î ¿ÔÁö¸¸, ¿ì¸®µéÀÇ °ÅºÎ¹ÝÀÀÀÌ ±× ÅëÁ¦·Â »ó½ÇÀÇ »ç½ÇÀ» ¹Þ¾ÆµéÀÌÁö ¸øÇÏ°Ô ¸¸µé¾ú´ø °ÍÀÌ´Ù. ±×·¡¼­ ¿ì¸® Àڽſ¡ ´ëÇÑ Á¤Á÷¸¸ÀÌ ¿ì¸®µéÀ» Áßµ¶ º´¿¡¼­ ³´°Ô ÇØ ÁÙ °ÍÀÌ´Ù.

(Sobriety means honesty. In Step One, we will feel a sense of relief. In the Step one we are first faced with having to be honest. We learn this by admitting our loss of control. We have been out of control for a long time, but our denial has kept us from admitting the truth. So, honesty will get us well.)

¿ì¸®µéÀÌ Áø½ÇµÇ°Ô ȸº¹ 1 ´Ü°è¸¦ ÀÌÇàÇϱ⸸ Çϸé, °íÅëÀÌ °æ°¨µÇ´Â °¨°¢À» ´À³¥ ¼ö ÀÖ´Ù. ȸº¹ 1 ´Ü°è´Â ¿ì¸®µéÀ» ¡°°¨¿Á¿¡¼­ Å»Ãâ(Out of our prison)" ½ÃÄÑ Áֱ⠶§¹®ÀÌ´Ù. ±×°£ ¿ì¸®µéÀÇ ºÎ Á¤Á÷ÀÌ ¿ì¸®µéÀ» ½½ÇÁ°í °íµ¶ÇÏ°Ô ¸¸µé¾î ÁÖ¾ú´ø °Íó·³, ÀÌÁ¦ºÎÅÍ Á¤Á÷¼ºÀº ¿ì¸®µéÀ» ÇູÇÏ°Ô ÇØ ÁÙ °ÍÀÌ´Ù.

(If we truly work the First Step, we will feel a sense of relief. The First Step lets us "out of our prison." Honesty will bring us happiness, just as dishonesty made us sad and lonely.)

¸¶Ä§³» ¿ì¸®µéÀº Áßµ¶ÀÌ ¿ì¸®µéÀ» óÂüÇÏ°Ô ÇØÁÖ¾ú´ø À̾߱âµéÀ» Çϸ鼭 ¾ÆÁÖ Æò¾ÈÇÑ °¨°¢À» ´À³¢°Ô µÉ °ÍÀÌ´Ù. ȸº¹ 1 ´Ü°è¿¡¼­ ¿ì¸® ÀÚ½ÅÀÇ Âü ¸ð½ÀÀ» ¹ß°ßÇÒ ¼ö ÀÖ´Ù´Â ¸»À» µÚÁý¾î¼­ À̾߱â Çϸé 12´Ü°è ȸº¹ÇÁ·Î±×·¥À» ÀÌÇàÇϸ鼭 ȸº¹ ±æÀ» ÀÒ¾î¹ö¸± ¶§¿¡´Â ȸº¹ 1 ´Ü°è¸¦ »ìÆ캸¸é ¾ðÁ¦°í ¿ì¸® ÀÚ½ÅÀ» ´Ù½Ã ¹ß°ßÇÒ ¼ö ÀÖ´Ù´Â ÀǹÌÀ̱⵵ ÇÏ´Ù.

(We can gain a great sense of peace from finally talking about what our illness has put us through. It has been said that in the First Step we find ourselves. This also means that if we ever feel lost in our program, we will find ourselves again if we look to the First Step.)

ÇÔ²² ȸº¹ 1 ´Ü°èÀÇ 4 °¡Áö ÁÖ¿ä ºÎºÐµéÀ» »ìÆ캾½Ã´Ù!
(Let's look at the 4 main parts found in the First Step)

1. ¿ì¸®´Â (WE) ...

ȸº¹ 1 ´Ü°è¿¡¼­ ¡°¿ì¸®(We)" ¶ó´Â °³³ä ÀÌÇØ´Â ¾ÆÁÖ Áß¿äÇÏ´Ù. Áßµ¶ º´Àº ¿ì¸®µé·Î ÇÏ¿©±Ý ³ª Àڽſ¡°Ô¸¸ ÁßÁ¡À» µÎ°Ô ¸¸µé¾î ÁÖ¾ú±â ¶§¹®ÀÌ´Ù. ¾ËÄڿà ȸº¹Ã¥ÀÚÀÎ Big Book¿¡¼­µµ Áßµ¶ÀÚµéÀº ¡°½º½º·Î ¹®Á¦¸¦ ¸¸µé¾î ³õ°í´Â ¾ß´Ü¹ý¼®À» ¶²´Ù(Self-will run riot)¡±´Â À̾߱⸦ ÇÑ´Ù. ±×°£ ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ ¸Î¾î¿Â À¯ÀÏÇÑ °ü°è¼ºÀº ¿ì¸®µéÀÇ Áßµ¶¹°Ã¼³ª Áßµ¶ÇàÀ§ À̾úÀ» »ÓÀÌ°í, Áßµ¶ÇàÀ§ ÀÌ¿Ü¿¡´Â ¾Æ¹«µµ µ¹º¸Áö¸¦ ¸øÇß¾ú´Ù.

(The "we" of the First Step is very important to understand. Our illness caused us to be self-centered. As the Big Book says, we had become "self-will run riot." The only relationship that mattered was the one we had with our chemicals or addictive behaviors. We didn't care about anyone else.)

¹Ù¸¥´ë·Î ¸»Çؼ­ ¿ì¸®Àڽŵµ µ¹º¸Áö¸¦ ¸øÇß¾ú´Ù. ¿ì¸®µéÀº ¿Ü·Î¿î »ç¶÷µé À̾ú°í, Á¾Á¾ ÁÖÀ§¿¡ ¸Éµµ´Â »ç¶÷µéÀ̶ó°ï Áßµ¶ÀÚµé À̾ú°Å³ª ¿ì¸®µé º¸´Ù ´õ Áßµ¶ º´ÀÌ ½ÉÇÑ »ç¶÷µéÀ̾ú´Ù. ¿ì¸®µéÀº ¾îµð¿¡µµ ¾î¿ï¸®Áö ¾Ê´Â ±âºÐÀ̾ú´Ù. ¿ÀÁ÷ ¿ì¸®µé°ú ÇÔ²² ÇÏ´Â »ç¶÷µéÀ̶ó°í´Â ¼ú, ¸¶¾à, µµ¹Ú, ÀÎÅͳÝ, °ÔÀÓ µî¿¡ Áßµ¶µÇ¾ú°Å³ª Ä£±¸µé°ú °¡Á·µéÀ» ÀÌ¿ëÇÏ´Â ¹«¸®µéÀ̾úÀ» °ÍÀ̸ç, ±×µé ´ëºÎºÐµµ ¿ì¸®µéÀÇ À¯Ä¡ÇÑ ¹æ¹ýµé¿¡ ½Å¹°ÀÌ ³µ¾úÀ» °ÍÀÌ´Ù.

(And if we are totally honest, we didn't care for ourselves. We become loners. Those we hung around with were often as sick or sicker than we were. We didn't feel like we fit anywhere. The only folks who would have much to do with us were our drinking, drugging, gambling, netting, gaming, or using friends and maybe our families. And the most of them were very tired of our childish ways.)

ȸº¹ ù ´Ü°è¿¡¼­ ¡°¿ì¸®¡± ¶ó´Â ¸»Àº ÀÌÁ¦ ¿ì¸®µéÀº »ç¶ûÀ¸·Î ÀÌ·ç¾îÁø ȸº¹±×·ìÀÇ ÀϺÎÀÌ°í, ¿ì¸®µé°ú °°ÀÌ È¸º¹ÇÏ·Á°í Çϸç, ¿ì¸®µéÀ» ÀÌÇØÇÏ´Â »ç¶÷µé°ú ÇÔ²² ÇÏ°í ÀÖ´Ù. ¿ì¸®µéÀº ÀÌ·¸°Ô ¿ì¸®µéÀÇ È¸º¹À» µµ¿ÍÁÖ·Á´Â »ç¶÷µé°ú ÇÔ²² ÇÏ°í Àֱ⠶§¹®¿¡ ÀÌÁ¦ ´õ ÀÌ»ó Ȧ·Î Áßµ¶Áõ°ú ¾¾¸§ÇÏÁö ¾Ê°Ô µÇ¾ú´Ù!

(The "we" of the First Step tells us we are now part of a loving recovery group. We are with people like us. We are with people who understand. Because we have people to help us, we don't have to struggle alone anymore!)

¿ì¸®µéÀÇ º´Àº °ü°è¼º¿¡¼­ ºñ·ÔµÈ °ÍÀ¸·Î, ±×°£ ¿ì¸®µéÀº ´ÙÀ½°ú °°ÀÌ ¾à¹°À̳ª Áßµ¶ ÇàÀ§µé°ú ÁÖ¿ä °ü°è¼ºÀ» ¸Î¾î¿Ô´Ù.

(Ours is an illness that has to do with relationships. Our main relationship was with chemicals or addictive behaviors.)

  • ¿ì¸®µéÀº »ç¶÷µéÀ» ½Å·ÚÇϱ⺸´Ù´Â °ÔÀÓÀ̳ª µµ¹ÚÀ» ´õ ½Å·ÚÇß´ø °ÍÀÌ´Ù!
    (We trusted game and gamble more than we trusted people)
  • ¿ì¸®µéÀº ¿ì¸® ÀÚ½ÅÀ» ½Å·ÚÇϱ⠺¸´Ù´Â ¾ËÄÚ¿ÃÀ̳ª ¸¶¾àÀ» ´õ ½Å·ÚÇß´ø °ÍÀÌ´Ù!
    (We trusted alcohol and drug more than we trusted ourselves)
  • ¿ì¸®µéÀº À§´ëÇÑ ÈûÀ» ½Å·ÚÇϱ⠺¸´Ù´Â Áßµ¶ÇàÀ§³ª ¾à¹°µéÀ» ´õ ½Ã·ÚÇß¾ú´Ù!
    (We trusted them more than we trusted a Higher Power)

¿ì¸®µéÀº ¾ËÄÚ¿Ã, ¸¶¾à, µµ¹Ú, ÀÎÅͳÝ, ¼½½º, °ÔÀÓ µîÀ» ÅëÇؼ­¸¸ ¿ì¸®µéÀÇ Á¤¼­Àû ¿å±¸¸¦ ä¿ì·Á°í ½Ãµµ ÇßÁö, »ç¶÷µéÀ̳ª À§´ëÇÑ ÈûÀ» ÅëÇؼ­´Â ÇÏ·Á°í ÇÏÁö¸¦ ¾Ê¾Ò´Ù. ÀÌ·¸°Ô ¿ì¸®µéÀº Áßµ¶ÇàÀ§³ª ¾à¹°°úÀÇ °ü°è¼ºÀ» ¸Î¾î¾ß¸¸ ÇູÇÏ°Ô µÇ´Â ÁÙ·Î ¾Ë¾Ò´Ù. ¹Ù·Î ÀÌ·± Á¡ÀÌ ¿ì¸®µéÀÇ º´ÀûÀÎ °ü°è¼º À̾ú´ø °ÍÀÌ´Ù.

(We tried to get our emotional needs met through alcohol, drugs, gamble, internet, sex, or game etc, and not trough people or a Higher Power. We came to believe that a relationship with them could truly make us happy. This was our sick relationship.)

¶ÇÇÑ Ã¹ ¹ø ´Ü°è¿¡¼­ÀÇ ¡°¿ì¸®´Â¡± °ü°è¼º¿¡ °üÇÑ °ÍÀ¸·Î, ȸº¹ 1 ´Ü°è¸¦ ÀÌÇàÇÏ°Ô µÇ¸é¼­ºÎÅÍ´Â ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ °ü°è¼º¿¡ ´õ Á¤Á÷ÇØÁö±â ½ÃÀÛÇÑ´Ù. ȸº¹ 1 ´Ü°è¸¦ ÀÌÇàÇϱâ À§Çؼ­´Â ¿ì¸®µéÀº ȸº¹¸ðÀÓ¿¡ Âü¼®À» ÇØ¾ß Çؼ­ ÇÔ²² Âü¿©ÇÑ »ç¶÷µé°ú µ¿ÀÏÇÑ Áßµ¶ º´À¸·Î °íÅëÀ» ´çÇÑ »ç¶÷À̾úÀ½À» ÀÌÇØÇÏ°Ô µÇ¾î, ¿ì¸® È¥ÀÚ¼­´Â µµÀúÈ÷ Áßµ¶Áõ°ú ½Î¿ö¼­ ÀÌ±æ ¼ö ¾øÀ½À» ¾Ë°Ô µÈ´Ù.

(The "we" of the First Step is also about the relationships. By working the 1st Step, we start to add honesty to our relationships. To work the 1st Step we need to believe we are one of many who suffer from this illness. We can't fight our illness alone)

¿ì¸®µéÀº ¿©Å²¯ ½Ãµµ¸¦ ÇغÃÁö¸¸ Áßµ¶ º´¸¸ ´õ¿í ±í¾îÁ³°í, ´Ù¸¥ ¸ðÀÓÂü¼®Àڵ鵵 ±×µé È¥ÀÚ¼­´Â Áßµ¶°ú ½Î¿ö¼­ ÀÌ±æ ¼ö ¾ø´Â Áßµ¶ÀÚµéÀÎ °ÍÀÌ´Ù. ±×·¡¼­ ¡°¿ì¸®µéÀº ±×µéÀ» ÇÊ¿ä·Î Çϸç, ±×µéµµ ¿ì¸®¸¦ ÇÊ¿ä·Î ÇÏ´Â ¼­·Î°¡ ÇÊ¿äÇÑ °ü°èÀÌ´Ù.¡±

(We tired and we got sicker, Other addicts can't fight their addiction alone - "we need them and they need us.")

ÀÌ·¯ÇÑ Á¡ ¶§¹®¿¡ 12´Ü°è ȸº¹ÇÁ·Î±×·¥¿¡¼­ ¡°¿ì¸®¡± ¶ó´Â °³³äÀÌ Çü¼ºµÇ¾ú´ø °ÍÀÌ°í, ¿ì¸®µéÀº ¼­·ÎÀÇ Ä¡À¯¸¦ À§Çؼ­ µ½°í ÀÖ´Â °ÍÀÌ´Ù. ÀÌ´Â ¸¶Ä¡ ¿ì¸®µé °¢ÀÚ°¡ ÇÑ ¾î·Á¿î ¹®Á¦ÀÇ ÀϺκÐÀ» ¸ÂÀâ°í ¹®Á¦ Àüü¸¦ ¿ÂÀüÇÏ°Ô ÇØ°áÇÏ´Â °Í°ú °°´Ù°í ¸»ÇÒ ¼ö ÀÖ´Ù. ±×·¡¼­ ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ ¾à¹°À̳ª Áßµ¶ÇàÀ§¿Í °ü°è¼ºÀ» Ãß±¸ÇÒ ¶§¿¡´Â Áßµ¶ º´¸¸ ´õ ±í¾îÁö´Â °ÍÀ» ¹ß°ßÇÏÁö¸¸, ´Ù¸¥ ȸº¹µ¿·á Áßµ¶ÀÚµé°ú °ü°è¼ºÀ» ¸ÎÀ¸¸é Áßµ¶ º´¿¡¼­ ³´°Ô µÇ´Â °ÍÀ» ¹ß°ßÇÏ´Â °ÍÀÌ´Ù.

(Because of this, the "we" of the 12 Steps program was formed, and we help to heal each other. It is as if each of us holds a part of a puzzle and together we create the whole. In our relationship with chemicals or other addictive behaviors, we found sickness. But in our relationships with other recovering addicts, we will find wellness.)

2. ½ÃÀÎ ÇÕ´Ï´Ù (... admitted ...)

½ÃÀÎÇÏ´Â °ÍÀº Á¤Á÷À» ÀǹÌÇϹǷÎ, ȸº¹ 1 ´Ü°è¿¡¼­´Â ¿ì¸®µéÀÇ Á¤Á÷À» º£ÆÃÇÏ°Ô µÈ´Ù. ±×°£ ¿ì¸®µéÀº ¡°Áßµ¶¿¡ ³ë¿¹°¡¡± µÇ¾î ¿Ô´ø °ÍÀÌ´Ù. ÀÌÁ¡¿¡ ´ëÇؼ­ ¸¸¾à¿¡, ±×¸®°í, ¶Ç´Â ÇÏÁö¸¸ µîÀÇ º¯¸íµµ ÇÊ¿ä ¾øÀÌ ½Ç·Î ¿ì¸®µéÀº ÅëÁ¦·ÂÀ» »ó½ÇÇß´ø °ÍÀÌ´Ù.

(Admitting means honesty. The 1St Step is about betting honest. We had become "slaves to our addiction" - no ifs, ands, or buts about it. We had lost control.)

Áßµ¶º´ÀÇ °¡Àå Å« ºÎºÐÀº ¹Ù·Î ¡°°ÅºÎ¹ÝÀÀ¡± À̸ç, °ÅºÎ¹ÝÀÀÀ» À§Çؼ­ ¿ì¸®µéÀº ¿ì¼± ¿ì¸®Àڽſ¡°Ô °ÅÁþ¸»À» Çؾ߸¸ Çß°í, ±× ´ÙÀ½ ÁÖÀ§ »ç¶÷µé¿¡°Ôµµ °ÅÁþ¸»À» ÇØ¾ß Çß´Ù. ¼úÀ» ¸¶½Ã°Å³ª µµ¹ÚÀ» Çϸ鼭 ¿ì¸®µéÀº 1~2¹ø¸¸ ÇÏ°í ±×¸¸ µÑ ÀÚ½ÅÀÌ ÀÖ´Ù´Â ¸»À» ½º½º·Î¿¡°Ô ÇßÀ» °ÍÀÌÁö¸¸, ¿ì¸®µéÀÇ ³»¸é ±í¼÷ÀÌ¿¡¼­´Â ±× ¸»ÀÌ °ÅÁþÀÓÀ» ¾Ë°í ÇÑ ¸»À̾ú´Ù. ¿ì¸®µéÀÇ °ÅÁþÀ» ½ÃÀÎÇÏ´Â ÇàÀ§´Â ´ÜÁö Áø½Ç¸¸À» À̾߱âÇØ¾ß ÇÏ´Â °ÍÀÌ´Ù. ½ÇÁ¦·Î ¿ì¸®µéÀº Áßµ¶¿¡ ³ë¿¹°¡ µÈ ¿ì¸®µé¿¡°Ô 1~2 Â÷·Ê Áßµ¶ÇàÀ§¸¸À¸·Î´Â µµÀúÈ÷ ÃæÁ·ÇÒ ¼ö°¡ ¾ø´Â °ÍÀÌ Áø½ÇÀ̱⠶§¹®¿¡ - ¿ì¸®µéÀº ´õ¿í ´õ Áßµ¶ÇàÀ§¸¦ °¥±¸ ÇØ¿Ô´ø °ÍÀ̹ǷÎ, ÀÌÁ¦ ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ È¸º¹Çϱâ À§Çؼ­´Â Á¤Á÷¼ºÀÌ ÇÊ¿ä ÇÏ´Ù.

(A large part of our illness is "denial." In denial, we lied to ourselves first - then we lied to others. We would drink or gamble and tell ourselves we would stop after one or two times. Deep inside we knew this was a lie. Admitting is just speaking the truth. Our truth was that one or two times never was enough for us - we wanted high and more. We need honesty to recover.)

  • ¾ËÄڿà ȸº¹¸ðÀÓ Ã¥ÀÚÀÎ Big Books ¿¡¼­µµ ȸº¹µÇÁö ¾Ê´Â »ç¶÷µéÀº ÀÚ±â Àڽſ¡°Ô Á¤Á÷ÇÒ ´É·ÂÀÌ ¾ø°Å³ª ¾ÕÀ¸·Îµµ Á¤Á÷ÇØÁö·Á°í ÇÏÁö ¾Ê´Â »ç¶÷µé À̶ó´Â ¸»À» ÇÏ°í ÀÖ´Ù.
    (The Big Books says that those who do not recover are people who cannot or will not be honest with themselves)

±×·¡¼­ ¿ì¸®µéÀº ȸº¹ 1 ´Ü°è¿¡¼­ °¡Á·, Ä£±¸, À§´ëÇÑ Èûº¸´Ùµµ ¿ì¸® ÀÚ½ÅÀÌ ÇØ¿À´ø ¾ËÄÚ¿Ã, ¸¶¾à, µµ¹Ú, ¼½½º, ¶Ç´Â ÀÎÅÍ³Ý °ÔÀÓ¸¸ ´õ Áß¿ä½ÃÇßÀ½À» ½ÃÀÎÇؾ߸¸ ÇÑ´Ù. ¿ì¸®µéÀº »îÀ» À§ÇèÀ¸·Î¸¸ ¸ô¾Æ°¬À¸¸é¼­µµ, Áßµ¶Áõ°úÀÇ °ü°è¼ºÀ» º¸È£ÇÏ´Â µ¥´Â ´ÚÄ¡´Â ´ë·Î ¸ðµç ¼ö´Ü°ú ¹æ¹ýÀ» ´Ù µ¿¿øÇß¾ú´Ù. ¹Ù·Î ÀÌ·± °ÍÀ» µÎ°í ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ »î¿¡ ÅëÁ¦·ÂÀ» »ó½ÇÇß¾úÀ½À» ½ÃÀÎÇ϶ó´Â ÀǹÌÀÌ´Ù.

(In the 1st Step, we admitted alcohol, drugs, gamble, sex, or internet game had become more important than family, friends, or a Higher Power. We put our lives in danger. We were willing to do anything to protect our relationship with addiction. This is what is meant by admitting we had lost control of our lives.)

  • ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ È¸º¹ 1 ´Ü°è¸¦ ÀÌÇàÇϸ鼭 ´õ Á¤Á÷ÇÒ¼ö·Ï ¿ì¸®µéÀÇ È¸º¹µµ ´õ¿í °­·ÂÇØÁö°Ô µÉ °ÍÀÌ´Ù.
    (The more honest we can be when we working the 1st Step, the stronger our sobriety will be.)

3. Áßµ¶¿¡ ¹«±â·Â ÇßÀ¸¸ç
(... we were powerless over addiction ....)
  • ÇѸ¶µð·Î ¾ËÄÚ¿Ã, ¸¶¾à, µµ¹Ú, ¶Ç´Â °ÔÀÓ¿¡´Â À§·ÂÀÌ ÀÖÀ¸¸ç, À§·ÂÀÌ ÀÖ´Ù´Â À̾߱â´Â ´Ù¸¥ °ÍÀ» ÅëÁ¦ÇÑ´Ù´Â ÀǹÌÀÌ´Ù
    (The simply means alcohol, drugs, or gaming had the power. Power means to have control over others)

  • ¹«±â·ÂÇÏ´Ù´Â ¸»Àº ¸ðµç ´Ù¸¥ °Í¿¡ ÅëÁ¦ÇÒ ¼ö ¾ø´Â °ÍÀ» ÀǹÌÇÑ´Ù.
    (To be powerless means to have no control at all over others)

±×·¡¼­ ¿ì¸®µéÀº ȸº¹ 1 ´Ü°è¿¡¼­ Áßµ¶Áõ¿¡ ¾Æ¹«·± ÅëÁ¦¸¦ ÇÒ ¼ö ¾øÀ½À» ½ÃÀÎÇÏÀÚ´Â °ÍÀÌ´Ù. Áßµ¶ÀÌ »ç¶÷º¸´Ù ´õ Å« À§·ÂÀ» Áö´Ï°í À־ Áßµ¶Áõ ÀÚü°¡ ¿ì¸®µéÀÇ ¿î¸íÀ» ¸¶À½´ë·Î Á¿ìÇϱ⠶§¹®ÀÌ´Ù.

(In the 1st Step, we admit we had no control at all over addiction. Addiction had the power greater than human being - it made the choices)

¾ËÄÚ¿Ã, ¸¶¾à, µµ¹Ú ÀÚü´Â ÈûÀÌ ¾ø¾î º¸À̴µ¥ ¾î¶»°Ô ±×·± ÀÏÀÌ »ý±æ±î? ÇÏ°ÚÁö¸¸ ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ ±×µé¿¡ ¹«±â·ÂÇÏ´Ù´Â °ÍÀº ¡°¿ì¸®µéÀÌ Áßµ¶¹°Ã¼³ª Áßµ¶ÇàÀ§¸¦ Çϱâ´Â ÇÏÁö¸¸ ±×·Î ÀÎÇؼ­ ¾î¶² °á°ú°¡ »ý±æ °ÍÀ̳Ŀ¡ ´ëÇؼ­´Â ÅëÁ¦ÇÒ ¼ö ¾ø´Ù¡±´Â °ÍÀ» ÀǹÌÇÑ´Ù.

(How could this be? Alcohol, drugs, gamble by themselves have little power. What is them meant when we say that we are powerless over them? "We use or do, and lose control over what will happen.")

  • ¿ì¸®µéÀº ³ª»Û ÀϵéÀÌ »ý±âÁö ¾Ê±â¸¦ ¹Ù¶úÁö¸¸ ¸¶¾àÀ» ³²¿ëÇϰųª µµ¹Ú°ú °°Àº Áßµ¶ÇàÀ§¸¦ ÇÏ°í³ª¸é ½ÇÁ¦·Î ³ª»Û °á°úµé¸¸ »ý±ä´Ù.
    (We don't want bad things to happen, but when we taking drugs or doing addictive behaviors like gambling, they do)

  • ºñ·Ï ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ Áßµ¶ÇàÀ§´Â Çصµ °¡Á·µé¿¡°Ô´Â »óó°¡ µÇÁö ¾Ê±â¸¦ ¹Ù¶úÁö¸¸ ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ Áßµ¶ÇàÀ§¸¦ ÇßÀ» ¶§¿¡´Â ´Ã °¡Á·µé¿¡°Ô »óó¸¦ ÁØ´Ù.
    (We don't want to hurt our families, but when we do the addictive behaviors, we do always.)

  • ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ Áßµ¶¹®Á¦·Î Á÷ÀåÀ̳ª °æ·ÂÀ» À§ÅÂ·Ó°Ô ¸¸µé°í ½ÍÁö´Â ¾ÊÁö¸¸ ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ Áßµ¶¿¡ ºüÁ®µé´Ù º¸¸é Á¾Á¾ ±×·± °á°ú°¡ »ý±ä´Ù.
    (We don't want to put our jobs and careers on the line, but when we are doing, often we do)

¶ÇÇÑ, ¿ì¸® Àڽſ¡°Ôµµ »óó°¡ ¾ø±â¸¦ ¹Ù¶úÁö¸¸ ¿ì¸®µé ¸ðµÎ´Â Áö±Ý Áßµ¶À¸·Î ¾ß±âµÈ °íÅëÀ» °æ¸êÇÏ°í ÀÖÀ¸¸ç, ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ ¾à¹°À» ³²¿ëÇϰųª Áßµ¶ÇàÀ§¸¦ ÇÒ ¶§¸¶´Ù ¿ì¸® Àڽſ¡°Ô »óó¸¦ ÀÔÇô¼­, ¿ì¸®µéÀº Áßµ¶¿¡ ¹«±â·ÂÇÑ °ÍÀÌ´Ù. ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ Áßµ¶ÇàÀ§¸¦ ÇÒ Àû¸¶´Ù Áßµ¶ÀûÀÎ ¸¶À½À» °®°Ô µÇ¾î¼­ ¿ì¸®µéÀÇ Á¤»óÀûÀÎ °¡Ä¡ÀǽÄÀº »ó½ÇµÇ´Â ÇÑÆí ¡°Áßµ¶ÀÚÀÇ °¡Ä¡¸¸¡± ´õ ÇÏ°Ô µÇ¾î, ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ Áßµ¶ÇàÀ§¸¦ Áß´ÜÇÏ´Â µ¥´Â ¹«±â·ÂÇÏ¿© Áßµ¶¿¡ ¾ô¸ÅÀÌ°Ô µÇ´Â °ÍÀÌ´Ù.

(Also, we don't want to hurt ourselves. We hate pain just the way everyone else does. But when we abuse chemicals or doing addictive behaviors, we hurt ourselves. We are powerless. We use or do, and we take on the mind of an addict. We lose our values and take on "addict values." We are powerless to stop this - we are hooked)

¾Æ¸¶ ¿ì¸®µéÀº ¿ì¸® Àڽſ¡°Ô ¡°°¡Á·µéÀ» ÀÌ·± ½ÄÀ¸·Î´Â Ãë±ÞÇÏÁö ¸»ÀÚ¡±´Â ¸»À» ÇßÀ» °ÍÀÌÁö¸¸, Áßµ¶ÀÚÀÇ ³»¸é¿¡¼­´Â À̸¦ ¿ô¾î¹ö¸®¸ç °è¼Ó °¡Á·µé°ú ¿ì¸® Àڽſ¡ »óó¸¦ ÁÖ´Â ÇൿÀ» Çؼ­ ¿ì¸®µéÀÇ ¼±ÅôɷÂÀº »ó½ÇµÇ¾úÀ» °ÍÀÌ´Ù.

(We might have told ourselves, "Don't treat your family this way," but the addict inside us laughed and kept on hurting them and us. We lost our power to choose)

Àΰ£ÀÌ µ¿¹°°ú ´Ù¸¥ ÁÖ¿äÇÑ Á¡Àº ¼±Åà ÇÒ ¼ö ÀÖ´Â ´É·ÂÀÌ´Ù. ¿ì¸®µéÀº °£È¤ Áü½Â¸¸µµ ¸øÇÏ´Ù´Â ´À³¦ÀÌ ÀÖÁö ¾Ê¾Ò¾ú³ª¿ä? ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ ¼ú, ¸¶¾à, ¶Ç´Â µµ¹ÚÀ» ÇÒ±î ¸»±îÇϴ óÁöÀÏ ¶§¿¡ ´©°¡ ¸»¸®¸é ÀÚ½ÅÀÌ ¿øÇÏ´Â Áßµ¶ÇàÀ§¸¦ ÇÒ ¼ö ÀÖÀ» ¶§±îÁö ½Î¿ì¸ç ´ÙÅø °ÍÀÌ´Ù.

(It is said that the main thing that separates humans from animals is the power to make choices. Didn't we, at times, feel less than human? If anyone stood between us and our drinking, drugging, or gambling, we would fight and argue until we got what we wanted.)

¿ì¸®µéµµ ´Ù¸¥ »ç¶÷µéó·³ ÇູÇϱ⸦ ¹Ù¶úÁö¸¸, ¿ì¸®µéÀº º´µé¾î¼­ ´Ã Áßµ¶ÀÚµéÀÌ ÇÏ´Â ¹æ¹ý´ë·Î¸¸ ÇൿÇß´Ù. ¿ì¸®µéÀº Áßµ¶°á°ú·Î ÀÎÇÑ ÁËÀÇ½Ä °¨À» °æ¸êÇÏ¿´Áö¸¸ ¶Ç´Ù½Ã Áßµ¶ÇàÀ§¸¦ ´Ù½Ã Çؾ߸¸ Çß´Ù. ±×·¡¼­ Áßµ¶µÈ ¿ì¸®µéÀº ȸº¹ 1 ´Ü°è¿¡¼­ ¿ì¸® ÀڽŰú ÁÖÀ§»ç¶÷µé¿¡°Ô »óó¸¦ ÁÖ´Â °Í ÀÌ¿Ü¿¡´Â ¾Æ¹«·± ¼±ÅÃÀ» ÇÒ ¼ö°¡ ¾ø´Ù°í ¸»Ç϶ó´Â °ÍÀÌ´Ù.

(We all wanted happiness just as everyone does. But we were sick and we acted the way addicts do. We hated the guilt we felt - it kept us human, but it also drove us back to addiction again. The 1st Step is saying that if we are addicted, we have no choice but to hurt ourselves and others!)

ÀÌÁ¦ ¿ì¸®µéÀº ¹«±â·ÂÀ» ½ÃÀÎÇÔÀ¸·Î ¿ì¸®µéÀÇ ¹®Á¦¸¦ ÇؼÒÇÒ ¼ö ÀÖ´Ù. Á¤Á÷ÇÏ°Ô ¿ì¸®µéÀÇ ¹®Á¦¸¦ ½ÃÀÎÇϱ⸸ ÇÏ¸é ¹®Á¦ÇØ°á¿¡ ´ëÇÑ Á¤È®ÇÑ ´äº¯À» ãÀ» ¼ö ÀÖ´Ù. ¹®Á¦°¡ ÀÖÀ¸¸é µµ¿òÀ» ±¸ÇÏ°Ô ¸¶·ÃÀ̹ǷÎ, Áßµ¶¿¡ óÇÑ ¿ì¸®µéÀº ´ç¿¬È÷ ¿ì¸®ÀÚ½ÅÀ» Áßµ¶ÀÇ ¼è»ç½½¿¡¼­ ¹þ¾î³ªµµ·Ï µµ¿ÍÁÙ ¼ö ÀÖ´Â »ç¶÷µéÀ» ã¾ÆºÁ¾ß¸¸ ÇÑ´Ù. ±×·¡¼­ ¹«¾ùº¸´Ùµµ ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ Á¤Á÷Çؾ߸¸ µµ¿òÀ» ±¸ÇÒ ¸¶À½ÀÇ ¹®À» ¿­ ¼ö ÀÖÀ» °ÍÀÌ°í, ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ ¹«±â·ÂÇÔÀ» ½ÃÀÎÇÏ¸é ¿ì¸® ÀÚ½ÅÀ» ´Ù½Ã ÀÚÀ¯·Ó°Ô Çؼ­, ¼±Åôɷµµ ´Ù½Ã ã°Ô µÉ °ÍÀÌ´Ù.

(By admitting we are powerless, we can now solve our problem. Honestly admitting our problem created the answer to our problem. If we have a problem, we seek help. If we are addicted, we seek out those who can help us free ourselves of addiction. So, honesty opens the door for help. Admitting we're powerless will allow us to be free again. It gives us back the power to choose)

4. »ýÈ°À» Á¤»óÀûÀ¸·Î ÇÒ ¼ö ¾ø°Ô µÇ¾úÀ½À»...
(... that our lives had become unmanageable...)

±×·± ¸»ÀÌ ¾îµð ÀÖ´À³Ä?
³ª´Â ¾ÆÁ÷ Á÷Àå¿¡ ´Ù´Ï°í ÀÖ°í, °¡Á·µé°úµµ ÀÌÈ¥ÇÏÁö ¾Ê°í Àß »ì°í ÀÖ´Ù. ÀÌ·±´ëµµ ³»°¡ »ýÈ°À» Á¤»óÀûÀ¸·Î ÇÏÁö ¸øÇÑ´Ù´Â ¸»À̳Ä?

(What does this mean? I still had my job. I have family. Doesn't that mean my life was still manageable?)

´ëºÎºÐ »ç¶÷µéÀº »îÀ» Á¤»óÀûÀ¸·Î »ìÁö ¸øÇß´Ù°í ½ÃÀÎÇϱ⸦ ½È¾îÇؼ­, ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ »îÀ» Á¤»óÀûÀ¸·Î ÇÒ ¼ö ¾ø¾úÀ½À» »ìÆ캸Áö´Â ¾Ê°í ¿ÀÈ÷·Á »îÀ» Àß °ü¸®ÇÒ ¼ö ÀÖÀ½À» ÀÔÁõÇغ¸ÀÌ°í ½Í¾î ÇÑ´Ù.

(Many of us hate to admit our lives had become unmanageable. We wanted to prove we could manage instead of looking a how unmanageable our lives had become)

ÀÌ´Â ¸¶Ä¡ Åä³×À̵µ°¡ Áý¿¡ µéÀÌ ´ÚÃļ­ ¹æÇϳª¸¸ ³²±â°í Áý ¸ðµÎ¸¦ Æı«½ÃŲ °Í°ú °°´Ù. Áßµ¶ÀÚµéÀÎ ¿ì¸®µéÀº Áßµ¶¹®Á¦·Î °¡Á¤ÀÌ ´Ù ¸Á°¡Á®¼­ °Ü¿ì ¹æÇϳª¸¸ ³²¾Æ Èûµé°Ô »ì°í Àִµ¥µµ ¿ì¸® ÀڽŰú °¡Á·µé¿¡°Ô Áý¾È Àüü°¡ ±¦Âú´Ù´Â È®½Å¸¸ ½ÃÅ°·Á°í ÇÑ´Ù.

(It is as if a tornado had ripped apart our house, destroying everything except for one room. As addicts, we try to convince ourselves and everyone else that the houses is in good shape because this one room is left)

ȸº¹ 1 ´Ü°è´Â ¿ì¸®µéÀÇ Áßµ¶¹®Á¦ ¶§¹®¿¡ ¿ì¸®µé°ú °¡Á·µéÀº ´ÙÀ½°ú °°ÀÌ ¾ÆÁÖ ºñ½Ñ ´ë°¡¸¦ Ä¡¸£°Ô µÈ´Ù°í ¸»ÇÑ´Ù. ÀÌ·¯ÇÑ °ÍÀÌ ¹Ù·Î »ýÈ°À» Á¤»óÀûÀ¸·Î ÇÏÁö ¸øÇÑ °ÍÀ» ÀÇ¹Ì ÇÑ´Ù.

(Step One is saying there was an expensive cost to us and families for our addiction as the following. This is what is meant by our lives being "unmanageable.")

  • °¡Á·µéÀº ¿ì¸®µéÀÇ Áßµ¶¹®Á¦·Î »óó¹Þ¾Æ¼­ È­¸¦ ³»°Ô µÈ´Ù!
    (Our families got hurt and angry because of our addiction problem)

  • Áßµ¶¹®Á¦·Î µ·À» ¸¹ÀÌ ¼ÒºñÇß°í ºúµµ ¸¹¾ÆÁ³À» °ÍÀÌ´Ù!
    (We spent a lot of money for addiction and has debts)

  • ¿ì¸®µéÀº Áßµ¶ÇàÀ§·Î ÀÎÇØ ºÎ²ô·¯¿òÀ» ´À²¼´Ù!
    (We felt ashamed because of our addictive behaviors)

  • ¿ì¸®µéÀº ¾à¼ÓÀ» ÁöÅ°Áö ¸øÇÑ ´ë½Å ¾à¹°À» ³²¿ëÇϰųª Áßµ¶ÇàÀ§¸¦ Çß´Ù!
    (We didn't keep promises - we abused chemicals or did addictive behaviors instead)

  • ¾Æ¸¶ ¼¼±Ý°ú ±Ù¹« ½Ã°£µµ ÂøÃëÇßÀ» °ÍÀÌ´Ù!
    (Maybe we cheated on taxes and the time we put in at work)

  • ¾Æ¸¶ ¿ì¸®µéÀº Áßµ¶¹®Á¦·Î ¿ì¸®ÀÚ½ÅÀ̳ª ÁÖÀ§ »ç¶÷µé¿¡°Ô ¾Æ¹«·± ¼ÕÇغñ¿ëÀÌ ¾ø´Â °Íó·³ °¡ÀåÀ» Çß¾úÁö¸¸, ±×°Ç ¾ÆÁÖ Å« °ÅÁþ¸»ÀÌ´Ù. Áßµ¶¹®Á¦°¡ ÀÖ°Ô µÇ¸é Ç×»ó ¼ÕÇغñ¿ëÀº ÀÖ°Ô ¸¶·ÃÀÌ´Ù - Áßµ¶µµ¹ÚÀÎ °æ¿ì¿¡´Â µ·À» ¸¹ÀÌ ÀÒ°Ô µÇ¸ç, ÇÑ ¾Æ½Ã¾È µµ¹ÚÀÚ´Â 5³â¿¡ 5¹é¸¸ ºÒÀ» ÀÒ¾î¹ö·È´Ù.
    (We pretended there was no coast to us or others due to our addiction problems. This is biggest lie. For addiction, there is always a cost - in case of compulsive gambling losing a lot of money. An asian gambler lost $ 5 million for 5 year's online gambling.)

Áßµ¶Àº ¾Æ¹«·± ½ÇÁ¦ °¡Ä¡´Â µÇµ¹·Á ÁÖ´Â °Í ¾øÀÌ ´Ù¸¸ ¿ì¸® »î¿¡¼­ °è¼Ó °¡Á®¸¸ °¡¼­, Áßµ¶ÁõÀº ¿ì¸®¿Í Ä£±¸µé ±×¸®°í °¡Á·µé·ÎºÎÅÍ °è¼Ó »©¾Ñ¾Æ °¡±â¸¸ ÇÑ´Ù. ȸº¹ 1 ´Ü°è´Â ±×°£ Áßµ¶¿¡ µé¾î°£ ºñ¿ë¿¡ ´ëÇØ ½ÃÀÎÇÒ °ÍÀ» ¿äûÇؼ­, ¡°¿ì¸®µéÀÇ Áßµ¶ °¡°ÝÇ¥´Â ¾ó¸¶³ª µÇ°í?¡± °¨Á¤, ¿µÀû, À°Ã¼Àû µîµî ±×¸®°í °ü°è¼º¿¡±îÁö ÇÇÇغñ¿ëÀº ¾ó¸¶°¡ µÇ´ÂÁö¸¦ È®ÀÎÇؼ­ ½ÃÀÎ Ç϶ó´Â °ÍÀÌ´Ù.

(Addiction keeps taking from our lives without putting anything of real value back into them. Addiction keeps taking and taking from us, our friends, and family. The 1st Step asks us to admit what our addiction has cost us. ¡°What was the price tag for our addiction?¡± Feeling, spirit, body...etc, and in terms of relationships, what are the costs?)

¿ì¸®µéÀÌ ±×°£ Áßµ¶À¸·Î ¾ó¸¶³ª ¿ì¸®ÀÇ »îÀ» Á¤»óÀûÀ¸·Î »ì¾Æ¿ÀÁö ¸øÇß´ÂÁö¿¡ Á¤Á÷Çϸé ÇÒ¼ö·Ï ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ Ã³ÇÑ Áßµ¶º´ÀÇ À§·Â¿¡ ´õ °ü½ÉÀ» °®°Ô µÉ °ÍÀÌ´Ù. Áßµ¶Áõ ÀÚü´Â ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ ÀÌ±æ ¼ö ¾ø´Â °­·ÂÇÑ º´ÀÓÀ¸·Î, º¸´Ù Á¤Á÷ÇÏ°Ô ÀÚ½ÅÀ» »ìÆ캼¼ö·Ï ¿ì¸®µéÀº ´õ ¿ÜºÎ¿¡ ȸº¹µµ¿òÀ» ûÇØ¾ß ÇÒ Çʿ伺À» °®°Ô µÈ´Ù.

(The more honest we are about how unmanageable our lives have become, the more respect we will have for the power of our illness. Addiction itself is powerful illness. The more honest we are in our self-examination, the more we will see the need to reach outside of ourselves for help.)

±×·¡¼­ ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ ÇØ¾ß ÇÒ È¸º¹ 2 ´Ü°è°¡ ´õ ÀÖ´Â °ÍÀ̸ç, ÀÌÁ¦ »îÀÇ »õ·Î¿î ±æÀÌ ¿ì¸® ¾Õ¿¡ ¿­·Á ÀÖ´Ù!

(This is where Step Two comes in, so let's move on to it. A new way of life is now open to us!)


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